If you get news of a person being abused and your first train of thought isn’t compassion or empathy but to find out what they had done first to deserve the abuse, we suggest you take a trip down to Yaba Left and change your ways because you are most likely an abuse enabler.
Here are 4 more ways to decipher an Abuse Enabler.
1. They always want to hear the “other side of the story” because sticks and stones might break your the victims’ bones but at least the gist excites them.
2. They always bring up the “If the roles were reversed” ministry as top deflection tactics.
3. They suddenly remember that social media is not a forum for victims of abuse to out their abuser because abuse is a ‘private issue’ or try to convince others that abuse is just another trial couples meet in their relationships.
4. They downplay the abuse with responses such as; “Was it just a black eye?” or “It was just once, forgive and forget” or excuse abusive behavior with statements like; “he’s just an aggressive person by nature”
If you’re reading this and this sounds like behavior you have exhibited in the past or you know someone who does these things, then we regret to inform you that you may be consciously or unconsciously enabling a culture of abuse. However, it’s not too late to change. Physical or Emotional abuse is a horrific part of our society and we should all take steps personally and publicly to support victims of abuse.
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