Getting over a break up of a relationship is never easy is never easy. After you’ve invested time in a person, formed a meaningful bond, and gotten used to having them as a central part of your life, it’s hard to cut entirely. It’s no surprise, then, that the urge to text your ex can be almost unbearable. Especially now that we’re locked in with so much free time on our hands and of course the obvious fact that we crave human connection, but we’re here to tell you, A PANDEMIC IS NOT ENOUGH REASON TO TEXT YOUR EX!
A lot of people can’t stop thinking about their ex obsessively to ease a feeling of loneliness. We’re here to tell you again that loneliness is not a good enough reason for you to text your ex, you’re not lonely, just bored.
When it comes to texting your ex, there is no right or wrong answer, but if you’ve felt the urge to make contact, you know how agonizing the decision can be. So you have to weigh the pro’s and cons and once the latter outweighs the former DO NOT SEND THAT TEXT!. Here are some reasons that should be good enough to ease the weird dilemma of whether or not to drop your toxic ex a not-so-toxic message.
1. There Is A Good Reason You’re Not Together
We get it. When you have been single for so long, and on a dry spell, coupled with the fact that there has been zero physical interaction in the past few weeks due to the lockdown, you are bound to latch on the first thought that comes to your mind, and that is your ex. But in such time what you mustn’t forget is that there was a reason you broke up with them in the first place, and unless they have miraculously changed or undergone a divine transformation, chances are the reason is still valid, which means your reason to text them, isn’t!
2. It Is Most Certainly Only Out Of Desperation
One of the ways to get over someone is to get under another. There is no place in the “post break up code” that states “hook up with your ex” . Trust me once you send out that text you’re setting yourself for another round of heart break!!!This might come off as harsh but it’s the truth. Once the relationship is over, only seldom do the two partners ever want to get back together, at least at the same time. More often than not, when it’s done, it’s done away for good and that means, you texting your ex out of the blue one fine day, would only and loosely translate into no more than a booty call.
So in case, you’re looking to rekindle those lost feelings, you might want to consider the possibility that the shelf life of those feelings might not last more than a night and hey, you need to stay indoors, your ex is not good enough reason to expose yourself to the deadly virus . Stay home and stay safe from the virus and your ex.
3. Don’t Give Them The Satisfaction
If you think that break ups hurt a lot, you probably don’t know what it feels like to give the same person who broke your heart, a reason to be one up with you. You sending out that text to your ex, would be an admission of the fact that you were probably wrong in parting ways and that when times are tough, you need him/her back. You’d are proving them right and giving them the satisfaction they most likely doesn’t deserve, and that my friend, is enough for you to reconsider pressing send!
4. You Deserve Better!
Yes you loved them, yes they gave you butterflies, yes they made falling feel like flying, but yes, they also broke your heart. And no, they do not deserve a second of your time. In fact, they are the very reason why you deserve someone so much better in life, and so what if right now you’re stuck home with no chance of finding Mr. Right? When the time comes, and the lock down will be lifted, the world will be your oyster and you wouldn’t have to go back to gumball jewellery when you’d have the chance to get your hands on a real gem!
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